I saw this on Facebook and I thought why the hell not, let me post this. For the record, I don’t have a personal Facebook account anymore. I just have a professional one for work to manage our socials. Every so often, Meta recommends me someone I know and I just shake my head sadly; I’m done and fuck you Mark Zuckerberg.
But this was cute, so..
The illusion of control. This is the thing- learn to distinguish the difference between control and being organised. Sure, every plan and preparation can go awry, but if you don’t organise your life in anticipation of what may come whatever it is, you’ll end up worse off (eg. use sunscreen EVERY DAY damn it!).
The need to prove yourself. I never had to because work and actions always speak for themselves. However you do need to prove to yourself that you’ve changed; that you’re not lying to yourself, that you’re not making excuses, and that you’ve truly given 101% of yourself.
Carrying grudges. I don’t have a lot, so I’m going to indulge myself in carrying some a bit longer.
Trying to fix everyone. I never have.
The fear of change. I love change because it does what I never seem to have the courage to doing- doing it myself.
Toxic loyalty. As someone who has never really had a big social circle, I never had this problem.
The comparison trap. Ha! I’m shallow when it comes to this. I’ve never cared about someone else’s career or wealth because I know that I can never compete with that, but it will bother me if they’ve found a way to make their neck area a bit firmer (I’ve been noticing a thinning of my neck skin and I’m struggling to find an effective way to reverse this- suggestions anyone??).
The addiction to busyness. I don’t mind this, I’m more concerned about the quality of this busyness- am I getting results equal to what I’m putting in??
Guilt for prioritising yourself. The first lesson I ever learned was, put yourself first because if you’ve done that, you’re in a better position to help others should they ask for it.
Old identities. I’m a different person every year and that’s a conscious effort on my part.
Unrealistic expectations of others. Never cared about how people choose to deal with me; just don’t be an asshole because I’ll fuck you up.
Overthinking the past. I don’t remember 89% of my past because what’s the point?
The chase for perfection. They say that it’s a moving target that robs joy, but so is settling and saying this will do. Be wise in choosing the things that you want to be perfect because in the end when you do get it, you realise that true perfection is a standard that you yourself have set.
Defining worth through productivity. Don’t be a fucking Gen Z lol. Your value is BOTH what you’ve produced and the presence you’ve brought into it.
Arguing with people committed to misunderstanding you. I’ve never met someone personally or professionally who was like this to me, but if I did, I’ll do everything in my power to get rid of them as quickly as possible (sorry, just finished watching The Beast In Me and I’m having a Nile Jarvis moment).
The belief that love alone sustains relationships. You’re an idiot if you’ve believed this lol.
Blaming your parents forever. Mmmmmmm. I keep trying to find something to blame them for. Maybe if I found a couple, I can finally find some fodder for that novel lol.
The fear of starting over. It’s not fear, it’s more of laziness. Ugh, do I have to start again??
People-pleasing. I’m not a people pleaser, I’m just nice and everyone actually says so. Plus I feel sad when everyone else ignores that special person with the propensity to tell you all her child-dramas when you’re making coffee in the office kitchen.
The need to have it all figured out. What’s wrong with trying to eliminate uncertainty now that you have AI lol??