This is my take if I may, from Leila’s post which you can read here; the gist is: People who are 40+ and happy with their life, what is your advice to people in their 20s?

My sibling’s kids- Matt is 20+ and Ally and Toni are not far behind- are sensible and raised well-enough to make good decisions, so it hasn’t occurred to me at all to give them advice (they can ask me for a phone sure or money if I have to spare and I can always give these…), but I’m not their parent. And at some point, all of us have become adults on a level, if not ever shifting playing field and it may well be, that they may give me advice who knows?

And because I’m always extra (this is number 12), here’s FORTY:

1. Forgive

2. Forget- the past is dead. If you committed something heinous though like murder or theft, THAT IS NOT exempt lol

3. Believe in God because there is one

4. Pray whenever you can

5. Have faith in yourself first because it starts there

6. if you need help, go ask for it

7. Be (always) helpful when you can

8. if you’re naturally unhelpful, then don’t help

9. Nothing is worse than forcing yourself to do something that’s not natural to you (like the colour Khaki).

10. Try though to change parts of yourself that you think, will benefit you if you changed them even if they seem, well, set.

11. Study your habits- not closing lids, not reading instructions, hanging laundry one way, cooking adobe one way- and see if by changing them, life is suddenly better. Little changes actually count. A lot.

12. Try to be extra in everything that you do because nobody has ever liked a half-baked cake; was promoted doing half-assed work; or gotten off satisfyingly from a semi-rigid penis.

13. Don’t be too extra in love though- love is never a resource you should extravagantly waste (and yes, it can be wasted!).